His and Her Health

Hi, I am a male poster, 23 y.o, that has had this question on my mind for a few years. First a prelude..

When I was 18 I hooked up with a gorgeous girl, and had some of my first sexual experience with her. However, she was unable to achieve orgasm during the whole relationship. This made my young male ego doubt itself, naturally. After the relationship had ended, a new love presented herself and I have been going out with her for 3,5 years. During which I frequently helped her achieve orgasms, practically every time we made love. Developed some interesting techniques too.

Now I'm single again, and not down for the long haul any time soon again. Yesterday I kissed my ex again (the non orgasmic) and the flashbolts bursted with so much passion.

Here's the deal. I want to help her have orgasm at least once in my years. The girl has matured (a lot), became comfortable with her sexuality (noticed that) and has become more open minded. She has told me she thinks (and I'm pretty sure) she has orgasmed twice using the shower head.

Here's the catch. I think she might have damaged her own clit with fondling during her youth. I know it sounds ridiculous. But she told me she used to pull(!) that area for pleasure in her early years. Could repeating such an act damage the functionallity of her clit? Sadly, she wasn't too comfortable with showing her genital area to me during the time we had sex, so I never got to have a good look at her nano penis. However, I know it didn't swell up as much as with other girls. She does enjoy intercourse.

So: Can pulling your clit damage it, and if so: how did she achieve orgasm with a shower head then? Is it good for ladies to get hosed down by a man, or doesn't it work that way?

She's perfectly normal, and it has nothing to do with you. I have some techniques for helping a woman achieve her first clitoral orgasms during sex in my book The Orgasmic Diet, I don't want to reinvent the wheel by going into all of it. But it's primarily something she has to want to do herself, not something that you do to her.

As long as you are doing the right things, like at least twenty minutes of regular and skilled clitoral stimulation and other foreplay, you should relax and try to avoid putting her under pressure.