His and Her Health

Hi everyone! I'm 18 years old, and I have a couple of questions about the female orgasm. I just recently experienced my first "awake" orgasm as I like to call it. For years, I have been experiencing them in my sleep which I thought was quite strange until I read that it was somewhat normal. It was really more frustrating than anything. I spent years trying to do the "relax, and concentrate on what you're feeling" routine but I just couldn't do it. Just a few weeks ago, I decided to buy a vibrator. It's a cheap battery operated one, but it managed to do the job. I had my first orgasm and it was much more intense than I had ever experienced in my sleep. Over the past few weeks, I've been successfully reaching orgasm with the vibrator, but I still haven't managed to do it without it.

I started to worry if this was normal, and I stumbled upon this site. I read a few things here and there, and I stumbled upon the "Orgasmic Diet". I looked into why fish oil was recommended, and apparently it helps increase blood flow. It was then that it completely dawned on me. I have a family history of a blood clotting disorder that causes platelets to clump up too much. The result is decreased blood flow. I'm not exactly sure if I have it, as I have never been tested, but I have been showing some other signs of poor circulation. I was wondering if this could be one of the reasons I need such intense stimulation to achieve orgasm.

I'm going to try the orgasmic diet and see how it goes. Any information on the subject would be greatly appreciated.

Congratulations on your new found orgasms while awake. You found a way (vibrator) that works for you. Some women only orgasm with the use of a vibrator.

In regards to your family history of a clotting disorder, you may want to get tested to see if you have it and then receive the appropriate treatment from a qualified practitioner.

Rejoice in the fact that you found a way to orgasm. Keep experimenting with other ways( ie. manual, or lay face down and get cllitoral stimulation from rubbing against a pillow or a dildo) if you want to find another way to reach orgasm. If you can't, no need to worry, vibrators can be easily and enjoyably incorporated into sex with a partner.

Another tip, masturbate to orgasm if you have menstrual cramps. It can be a great relief.
You are young, so continue to learn to give yourself pleasure. This will help enable you to teach a parter how to please you.

Thanks so much for your advice. It's such a relief to hear that it's normal to only be able to orgasm with the vibrator. I don't really feel like I'm missing out on anything, so it's just a big relief to know that I'm normal.

I'm currently in the process of just experimenting with different positions and such. I also realized that I'm capable of multiple orgasms. I think it's been a good solid 2 or 3 weeks of taking the fish oil, so that is probably having some affect.

Also, I've heard that orgasms can help menstrual cramps. I'll have to try that as I have pretty severe cramps. The problem is getting in the mood. I generally don't feel like doing anything when I'm on my period.

As you get more comfortable with orgasms, keep experimenting with masturbation without the vibrator. Once you get in a regular routine, occasionally take a week or two off from the vibrator and keep trying with your hands. You should be able to eventually figure out a way.

It is true that many women only orgasm with a vibe but I agree it is best to continue to also pleasure yourself manually even if you don't orgasm. For years I could only orgasm with a vibe and did not mind but then found I was needing a stronger and stronger one to climax and lost the ability to feel any pleasure manually. If you do use a vibe try to mix it up with different types or use the lowest possible setting or combine it with manually pleasuring yourself and just use the vibe to cross the finish line.

Yeah, that's kind of what I've been doing. I've been starting with manual stimulation and going until the tension builds up a little. I use the vibrator to bring on the orgasm, and now I'm practicing with stopping the vibrator mid-orgasm and switching to manual.

I've also dedicated some time to strictly manual stimulation, and what I've found is I'm able to push myself further than I could before I got the vibrator. What I think was happening was I never knew how much stimulation I really needed. When I was stimulating myself enough, I thought it was discomfort, so I stopped. The first orgasm from the vibrator was sort of an accident. I turned it all the way up and wanted to see what would happen if I just held it there. It felt very uncomfortable until the orgasm happened. Now I'm trying to get used to these new sensations. They're not uncomfortable in a painful way, it's more like the feeing of my body being totally out of control. But I guess that's what an orgasm is. Slowly, I've been getting used to these feelings, so I guess that's a positive sign.