His and Her Health

For some reason, I'm different than practically everything I have researched, and I've noticed a ton of weird things/problems about myself.<P>Firstly, I have only had 2 orgasms in my life, and both of which involved penetration. I've never found anything but that to be enjoyable. It seems to touch my G-spot deep inside and unless I can get that, it doesn't happen. I don't feel pleasure from touching my clit at all and I never have. I didn't start masturbating until the first time I had sex and always with objects inserted into myself, because I don't feel pleasure by simply touching myself. When I did have orgasm though, the pleasure centered itself onto my clit... oddly. Yet touching it directly seems to do nothing. Is it somehow desensitized? Do any other women have this problem?<P>The other weird thing is that when I have to go to the bathroom and my bladder is full, I feel extremely horny. I can do contractions with my muscles and it feels better. I feel weird about this because its the only time I feel seriously aroused is when I have to pee, or something is inside me. Is this because my bladder is next to my G-spot or what? <P>I'm very confused by it all. Its frustrating me and my partner to no end, because he can't get me to orgasm. Posting this was a last resort. Please help, if anyone knows anything

I really don't know what to say but . . .<P>I have suffered some kind of nerve damage to my clitoris and it have very little feeling in it now. When I have some bladder tests done which involved some kind of electric stimulation, (internal) I briefly felt some good in my clitoris.<P>I wish I know what this means.<P>I

You aren't weird, you are just you. I am another woman who only orgasms via penetration, from either g-spot contact or cervical stimulation. Also, having a fuller bladder can make the sensation better for me, too. There are a number of reasons for all this, in my case. First, my outer clitoris has very little feeling. I have a rather thick hood, and my gyn has noticed that I have little feeling there at all. Fortunatley, I've had no orgasm issues since I can do so via penetration. This might also be the case with you--everyone is different. You could have a thick clitoral hood, fewer nerves for no other reason that you were born that way, or low blood flow. If it really bothers you, you could try viagra or the EROS to help with blood flow and see if either works. As it is, though, I wouldn't worry about it. <P>What I would suggest is trying different sexual positions to help your partner (and/or yourself with a vibrator) reach the necessary spot for stimulation. Woman-on-top tends to work well, as does doggy-style. My favorite for g-spot, though, is the man sitting on a couch, the woman straddling him with her legs tucked behind his back. This allows decent freedom of movement, and also places you at a good angle.<P>As far as the full bladder, if it works for you go with it. A full bladder creates more pressure in the pelvic area, and many women find this pleasurable. The only concern would be if you are worried about losing control of your bladder during sex. You may want to try other positions without a full bladder and see how it goes, then go from there. <P>Rest assured, you are not strange. And, it's great that you have a way to orgasm (many women don't). Play around a bit, and see what works best. There is no "right" way to orgasm, but unfortunately all the literature out there tends to ignore the 1/4 of the female population that *does* orgasm via penetration.