His and Her Health

Ok, I am looking for some of your BEST BJ techniques...and I mean like mind blowing! I want to give my man an experience like he has never had before! He already says I am by far the best he has ever had, but I want to try some new things. Anyone care to share?

have you tried blowing with an ice cube in your mouth or what about soda, beer? do you play with his g spot while blowing? or what about the that little spot just before his anus? oh here is another one what about a bullet vibe? while you blow move the vibe all round his testicals and anus. have fun!

I always "swirl" my head while moving on his penis. Also, I play with his testicles--some men like a gentle tickle, some prefer fondling. Try licking his testicles and his perenium, then licking up the shaft of his penis. Gentle sucking motions on the underside of the penis also seem to be big winners. Use your tongue! I use mine to add an extra sensation by flicking it over this penis along with the basic in-out motion. <P>Champagne is also a fun accessory. The bubbles, I am told (I don't have a penis, so I can't swear to this), are excellent. Another one is the gel that heats as you blow on it. Apply this in a moderate amount to the testicles, blow, and then use your mouth on the rest of him.<P>Have fun!

I found that grilling many of my gay male friends over the years (and reading an article about this written by one) has helped out my technique tenfold!<P>Like you, I was pretty good at it, but I wanted to really be excellent at it -because most women don't even LIKE giving a BJ, I figured if I do, I should really do it well!<P>So what I've heard back from "experts" on the subject are many of the same things:<P>1. First, a common misconception (further perpetrated by porn): The most important thing to a man is not neccesarily how far you can take him into your mouth. From what I've been told, if it's a natural "skill" you have (most women have a strong "gag reflex" which makes this difficult), then by all means, incorporate it into the act - BUT, if it's not your bag, don't worry. It's the rest of your skills, focusing on feeling, that REALLY make the experience for most men (except those that might have a fetish about seeing you swallow them whole!). I've even had men tell me that it can be a little scary and painful to have a woman try to keep doing this throughout the BJ, if she's not good at it, because they can often feel the woman's teeth - this can result in scrapes and an uncomfortable feeling for the man. Not really a good feeling for most.<P>2. Practice a bit of variety throughout the act, from beginning to end. Over and over I was told that even the most skilled person can make the experience a bit less by not varying the act here and there to heighten certain moments...it's somewhat related to the idea that if you are able to stop a man just before orgasm (in the right way) by varying the act a bit to accentuate a different type of stimulation for a moment, AND THEN return to what you were doing that felt so good, the orgasm can be a few times stronger! So imagine, a good BJ, with stops to simply use the hand, or maybe even a little slight penetration, and then returning to it, can be very intense! <P>3. I always have heard (and experienced) that using your hand AND your mouth, together, make the experience much better than just using your mouth - but you have to know how to do it right. While he is in your mouth, have your hand wrapped around the base, with emphasis on your thumb and forefinger creating a circle that varys pressure (kind of like an "OK" sign). While you move your mouth up and down (and around), follow this action with your hand. And don't just go straight up and down - swirl the hand AROUND the shaft, and occasionally ALL THE WAY TO THE TOP OF THE HEAD, even swirling it around the head when you get there. You can leave your lips touching just the tip of the head while doing this so that there is complete contact over all the skin. Depending on the man's particular areas of sensitivity, I found that to vary the pressure of your thumb and forefinger, especially around the head, will mimick some of the more intense muscle contractions of a vagina, which felt during a BJ can really explode their mind! <P>4. And here's the really great suggestion. It has also worked wonders for my friends I've given it to: We jokingly refer to it as "The Look-Up". Here's what to do: get yourself in some sort of position while you are giving the BJ so that you can actually make eye contact at different times during the act. A good position is to have him sitting down infront of you while you kneel while doing it. Or even him standing up, with you kneeling before him gives you the neck room to do this. Every once in awhile, look up at him with a confident gaze - kind of like "I know exactly what I'm doing, and exactly how GOOD it's making you FEEL!" Not exactly sure why, but this seems to make them a little crazy. I discovered this once while my boyfriend was sitting on the couch - I looked up at him a few times during and right as he climaxed - and he swears it's the most erotic thing he's ever experienced! The feedback from friends who have tried it have confirmed that there's definitely something to it!<P>Good luck, and have fun!